Other traditional wedding superstitions are:
- Wedding date should be on 8th of a month (8 is infinity, also ends in upward stroke (upward movement in fortune) when you write it
- Bride must not wear pearls during wedding day to avoid suffering (pearls were made from tears)
- No one should wear black (black is about sadness and mourning)
- Make sure candles are kept lit at all times (e.g. if candle in the groom's side dies out, he will die first)
- Throwing/showering bigas on the couple is good luck
About sukob, it's bad luck for siblings to marry within a year. For example, if bro1's wedding date is Nov. 19, 2017, bro2 should only marry on Nov. 20, 2018 or later (more than 1 year gap). It's considered to be malas if not followed. Well, weddings are expensive and siblings and their families should prepare properly. Consecutive weddings will drain the siblings' budgets.
Seeing each other before wedding is also said to be malas. Actually this was practiced during the time of arranged marriages of old times. The soon-to-be married couple were not allowed to meet until their wedding day because one might back out.
Knives as wedding gifts are also malas or unlucky because knives somehow symbolize cutting relationships and bad luck.
Follow superstitions?
There's no harm in following the above wedding traditions and superstitions (especially if your family values tradition). Follow the superstitions above to prevent negative atmosphere and comments from your kamag-anak. Then, you can better focus on your wedding and married life. |
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